Advice

Sometimes, like Lois Lane in Smallville, I'm not comfortable with uncomfortable silences. I'm growing in that respect, but it still happens too often for my taste that I find myself halfway through a conversation before I realize that I barely know what I'm saying, let alone why. (No surprise that most of my worst miscommunications and arguments have come out of those moments.)

This quote that I just saw on Kevin DeYoung's blog is excellent advice:

"Above all things beware of letting your tongue outrun your brains. Guard against a feeble fluency, a garrulous prosiness, a facility of saying nothing...My brethren, it is a hideous gift to possess, to be able to say nothing at extreme length."

--Charles Spurgeon in Lectures to My Students